How to Choose a Sober Living Home

Start with Your Needs

The right sober living home depends on your specific situation. Consider your gender preference (men's, women's, or coed), your budget, your geographic needs (close to work, family, or outpatient treatment), your recovery program (twelve-step, faith-based, secular), and any special requirements (pet-friendly, LGBTQ+ affirming, luxury amenities).

Questions to Ask

• What is the monthly cost and what does it include?
• How many residents live in the home?
• What are the house rules regarding curfew, guests, and meeting attendance?
• How often is drug testing conducted and what method is used?
• Is the home certified or accredited by any state or national organization?
• What happens if someone relapses?
• Are there phases with increasing levels of freedom?
• Is the home near public transportation and employment opportunities?
• What is the average length of stay for residents?
• Can I tour the home before committing?

Red Flags to Watch For

Not all sober living homes are created equal. Watch for these warning signs: homes that don't drug test regularly, operators who seem more interested in collecting rent than supporting recovery, overcrowded conditions, lack of clear house rules or inconsistent enforcement, no requirement for meeting attendance or recovery program participation, and homes that don't have established relationships with local treatment providers.

Certification Matters

Look for sober living homes certified by organizations like NARR (National Alliance for Recovery Residences) or state-level recovery housing associations. Certification means the home has met standards for safety, management, operations, and ethics. While uncertified homes can still be excellent, certification provides an additional layer of accountability.